Arthur Udris Biography

This year he decided to finish his sports career, moved with his family to Poland and spends psychotherapy sessions in Warsaw. With the player, and now the psychologist and psychoanalyst, Belsat met an hour before the start of the seminar in the Belarusian Youth Hab. He smiles openly, shakes his hand, sits down. A bright T -shirt, on the feet - “Jordans” of the size.

Arthur Udris: - You know, I partly work online, so my clients simply do not see what growth I laugh. And those who come to me offline, on the contrary, say that it calms them, they feel comfortable. I think the effect of the “parental figure” is triggered here, because the parent is usually higher than the child. Well, if someone is scared, then for me this is a point that is worth considering: if you are scared, then maybe in childhood what happened?

.. Arthur Dris was born in Riga in the year, but from three years old he lived in a deep way, where he began to engage in volleyball with his brother. Arthur is a former player of the team of Belarus, from where he left, condemning the falsification of elections and violence of security forces in the year. He has three higher educations: coach, economist and psychologist of the East European Institute of Psychoanalysis.

As a psychologist and sexologist helps people with low self -esteem, problems caused by a feeling of shame and fear, advises in matters of relations between parents and children, establish and strengthens personal boundaries. And then I ask: “How do you understand what has become happy? What will change in your life? After all, if you do not understand this, you won’t come anywhere.

Basically, everything is fine. There are some financial issues and questions about the work, but, by and large, everything is fine. What do I want to change? I want to develop.

How does it live without him? In fact, I'm very tired. This is a large segment of life. And quite bright. And there was different - both good and bad. But now I don’t miss volleyball at all. And now I tell my wife how good it is: you come to the gym - and you do not need to "plow". And somehow it was relieved. Although, of course, I understand that fatigue will pass and another period will come when you want to continue.

It will probably be like that. I wait and know how to give it to cope. But now I don't think about it at all. But finally - Poland? Kira’s daughter, she is 7 years old, already speaks very well in Polish. Will go to school in the fall. The son Daniel will turn three years later in two weeks. Well, he speaks his own way. But uses Belarusian words. Polish understands, but so far he is silent on him.

Is it from your childhood in deep? After all, in the national team they are unlikely to communicate in Belarusian? In fact, I graduated from the Belarusian -language school in deep. Probably the last Belarusian -speaking in the Vitebsk region. Therefore, yes, I spoke in childhood in Belarusian. Then the tongue returned to me in the year. And even more - in the year, when the war in Ukraine began.

I wanted to psychologically dissolve from this: they say, we are not Russians, we have our own nationality and our own idea, and we did not start this war. Then they decided to talk in Belarusian with friends. Until now, we are talking to many, we correct each other, because together they started. It seems to me that then many of my environment were born. Although I would not call it volleyball, but there was my first coach - Ivan Ivanovich Dubina, now the senior coach of the Soligorsk Shakhtar, who not only gave me a good start in vollosebel.

Many different memories. Probably the most striking moments are those that are connected just with volleyball and my coach. I started playing volleyball at 10 years old ... I also remember how good it was when I was in my grandmother’s house. And this smell, when they drowned the bathhouse ... Now you catch similar somewhere-and everything seems to be returning. And he never regretted that he was engaged in volleyball, in which Belarus had never made his way to the Olympics?

But I will answer like that. Sometimes they ask me whether it is convenient to have such a large growth, and I reply that I was almost never low. At 18, I was already above two meters. I do not know what it means to be smaller. The same with the Olympics. I don’t know how it really is there. But I know a lot of competitions that look very presentable outside, and from the inside-completely differently: heavy psychological stress, etc.

I do not know what the Olympics from the athletes look like. I never had such that I felt sorry that I am not a jump in height, for example, not a jump with a pole. This is sincere. Well, no. Of course not. Honestly, I would be sick if my friends were there. Obviously, they are not there now. Fanding purely for the country? Again, what part of the nation those athletes represent?

I think the split in Belarusian society is now quite significant. Of course, they represent the wrong part of the society with which I identify myself, and I have no personal connections with them, therefore - there is no one to root for. Maybe among them there really are those who tore the veins all their lives, trained to get there for whom the Olympics was the dream of life and who was silent only because he wanted to get to these games.

Maybe there are such, I don't know.As for the admission, for me it was not a surprise, since the sports world, especially organizing this scale, is very corrupt. I was sure that they would find some half-timer. It’s like with a doping scandal at the Sochi Olympics, when the Russians were forbidden to speak under their flag for four years as a punishment. It’s funny for me! They violated everything that could be broken.

And what? .. Therefore, the IOC is not the organization from which fair decisions should be expected. In Paris, the Poles will probably fight for medals. Imagine that you are a couple of years younger, in great shape and you are invited to play for Poland. Give consent? This is what for what. I always believed that we were going to fight and win something for some medals, and we are a team that solves certain problems and solves problems.

One whole. The squad is a good word. By the way, I did not really like to go to the national team of Belarus, because I felt that my gaze was not close to everyone. Far, I would say. There were sports functionaries who came and said: you must do it, you must, etc. And this did not fit into my universe at all. If I played in Poland for a long time, if my friends and acquaintances were here, if I shared their thoughts and aspirations, then yes, I would agree.

But not just to tell everyone that I visited the Olympics ... - So you understand the choice of Belarusians who agreed to speak at the Games under the Polish flag? Moreover, they perform in individual species, so they are probably easier for them. You imagine yourself and that's it. Do you think this appeal could launch the process of peaceful negotiations? When Russia bombs a hospital or kindergarten, you need to understand that no appeals to this country are acting.